May 13, 2016

大学放榜 4 : 我的自述- 一针一线 Stitches


申请美国大学,其中一项最费时间与精神的程序是写一篇关于自己的 Personal Statement (essay),就是所谓的个人自述。

不同大学对 Personal Statement 有不同的要求,有关大学会规定 Personal Statement 的范围,主要是想看看背景与环境如何造就今天的你,认识你的特质强项,了解你的志愿,评估你的理想是否符合他们的核心思想等等。

所以,Personal Statement 很重要,绝对不可掉以轻心。

由于女儿总共申请了5间大学,所以她至少写了5篇 Personal Statement。


其中一篇 Personal Statement 里,提到了她公公婆婆由中国海南岛来马来西亚的经历,顺便穿插了她本身小小移民的生活故事。。。




多谢老爸老妈的碎布,小小年纪就能有这绅士般的装扮。。。
她的公公婆婆(我的家公家婆),小时候被爸爸妈妈由海南岛带到马来西亚,过后以裁缝手艺一针一线撑起一家的生计,省吃俭用的把4位孩子拉大。


我记得,家公家婆最拿手的是把车衣服剩下的布料拿来给孩子们做衣服;长裤,短裤,小裙子,新年衣,睡衣,小手袋,手帕,床单,被单,沙龙应有尽有。后来我的孩子,他们的孙子孙女也有机会穿着他们做的衣服招摇过市;碎布缝成的衣物仿佛是他们一家的注册商标。

岂料,几十年以后,我们也步上他们的后尘,带着下一代飘洋过海到地球的另一端落脚;想寻找一些新鲜的机会,开阔一些视野,体验一些不一样的生活。

尽管时代不同,离乡背景的原因也不一样,但是在异乡所面对的恐惧与焦虑是一样的,兴奋,好奇,充满期待的心却也一样。


也许,这就是远离家乡必须付出的代价吧?(当然,科技与互联网缩短了彼此的距离联系了感情,这一点我们比较幸运。)

对于女儿会以公公婆婆过去的经历与生活态度为典范,我有点惊讶。

我很高兴她理解外来移民应该比土生土长的人更加努力的硬道理;我也感到安慰,身在异乡的她清楚自己的出处,懂得自己的语言,依然保留一些我们的价值观,一些老祖宗的文化习俗传统。。。


我其实最骄傲的还是她能够自信的,稳打稳扎的走出自己的路;不会因为沉浸在异乡文化常讲英语吃西餐听西洋流行乐而忘记自己的根本。。。

我知道,只要她能够继续正面的学习态度,坚持上一代自强不息刻苦耐劳勤劳节俭的美德,要在异乡拼出一个美好未来并不是梦。 


祝福你,大姐,你会是弟妹的榜样!

得到她的允许,我把其中一篇 Personal Statement  放在这里与大家一起分享。



STITCHES

I recall the moment when I was in 8th grade, where my history teacher asked where each student would travel to celebrate Christmas with their family.

“I’m going to Seattle!”

“My grandparents live in Orlando!”

“ Oh, my family will be at my house for Christmas.”

My classmates excitedly shared their plans for the holiday, but I quietly listened in. It was a mixture of fascination and jealousy - my extended family lives seven thousand miles away in Malaysia, or, as my thirteen-year-old self liked to say, a day of traveling in a plane.

From the earlier generations of my family, I have inherited the small eyes and tiny nose, but I have also gained the hidden ability of the family: the drive to thrive anywhere you are. My grandfather, who I’d always called Ye-ye, immigrated from China to Malaysia, raising his children by tailoring in a largely Islamic society. Stitch by stitch, he made clothes for five dollars each, sending all his children to universities despite the difficulties.

I was born and raised in Malaysia. When I was a newborn, my parents had to work, so it was my grandfather who spent the most time with me during the day. In my mind, Ye-ye was strict, and he had the silence of steel. Beneath that surface, I knew that my grandpa was as warmhearted as anyone- he made my siblings and me pajamas from leftover fabric, or bags from jeans that we had outgrown. As school became more difficult, tears were shed, and tantrums were thrown by my younger self, but my dad would remind me of Ye-ye’s hardships of living in a foreign place, and to be grateful for it. I used to scoff at that statement, until the moment I was in Ye-ye’s shoes, leaving my birthplace for the United States when I was thirteen years old.

Struggles were inevitable when adjusting to the new environment. I was not fluent in English, I wore outlandish clothes on the first day of 8th grade, I was scared of what my classmates thought of me - the strange girl with the weird glasses. As months passed, the importance of my family gradually dawned on me. Facetiming was common, despite the time zone difference. It was not evident, but the sense of support was always there as we talked through the screen, or even by sharing pictures through Whatsapp. At that moment, I realized that I was dependent on Ye-ye’s presence. His constant encouragement and love supported me back in Malaysia, and now, it motivated me to thrive in this place where I would start a new chapter of my life.

Over my high school years, I occasionally imagined what Ye-ye faced back when they were leaving their hometown. Fear? Excitement? Curiousity? Anxiety of separation? I had a taste of those, and now it was up to my own hands to find my own interest and to create a life that I want. By taking classes of biology and anatomy, I found my interest in the functioning of the human body; by babysitting, I realized that I loved to work with children. I’ve actively volunteered in a local hospital for nearly two years, and I’ve visited a hospital in Malaysia with the passion to encourage cancer-stricken children to never give up on continuing the arduous treatment process. I am the president of an honor society, as well as an officer of Science Olympiad that aims to invigorate students’ interest in science. Despite these small achievements, I constantly reminded myself that it was largely on Ye-ye’s sacrifices and hardships that I’d built my success on. It was his stitches that the rest of the family held on to, keeping the family together over the distance. As the saying goes, “Distance only makes the heart grow fonder.”


我阿姨说,这一代的孩子那么好奇,想必未来只能在博物馆看针车缝制表演了



May 5, 2016

大学放榜 3:理想 vs 出路

社区颁发20份 $1500 的奖学金
我们来谈谈理想与出路;老生常谈,却不得不谈~

经济能力与回报率

名校的学费昂贵,一年至少要 4 万到 6 万美金的学费。除非成绩特别优异,或者家里特别贫困,要不然大部分学费还是要自挑腰包。


比较亚洲父母卖屋卖树胶园送孩子出国留学的思维,美国孩子更习惯自力更生,贷款上大学。想到毕业后要偿还累累的贷款,难怪他们会先考虑这项“投资“值不值得,而后选择进入比较便宜的公立大学,或先在社区大学就读两年的课程。市面上也有政府或私人贷学金供申请,就看家庭背景与条件。

除了大学排名,还有一个指标,大家也会参考--- ROI。


所谓 ROI,就是 Return of Investment,大约的列出大学的学费与未来薪金的对比。这指数其实也很笼统,一些大学的科系包罗万象,一些小型大学贵精不贵多,只专注强项,所以 ROI 只是一个大概。市面上有很多有关大学 “投资回酬” (College Return of Investment) 的数据供父母亲及学生们参考。

我看来好像很现实哦?现实生活考量嘛,要量力而为,也要吃饭~嘻嘻


(曾看过被名校录取最后却选择入读全免州立大学的例子,这是理想与现实的拔河战。然而,好的就是好的,天大地大自有让人发挥之处,无需担心。)

Is getting admission looks to be more awarding than ROI?  ROI 回酬重不重要?这就是抉择的困难。。。



College Return-Of-Investment - HIT HERE (ROI)

CNBC Report on College ROI - HIT HERE


美国的好处是,大专学府选择多,素质都不错(当然害群之马还是有的)。

其实,市面上还有许多私人赞助的奖学金,就怕你不努力申请罢了。。。

(再不,考虑到欧洲学费低廉的国家求学也不错,如德国法国等等。想去这些国家留学,就要尽早学习他们的语言咯~)
女儿学校 3 位奖学金得奖者与校长和 Counselor 合影
女儿和她的 Counselor,这位年轻的 Counselor 给了孩子不少学业上的帮助
本州学生与外州或国际学生的学费对比
出路

中学生经过严峻的淘汰制度进入大学,再出一大笔的学费4年苦读;应该没有人想要毕业就马上失业吧?

要知道,理想与兴趣固然重要,但是我们还是有必要衡量毕业后的出路,与就业机会。


这时候,想留在美国打工的外国留学生,甚至考虑移居美国的毕业生还有几关要过:

第一,先找到一份工作;第二,新公司愿意帮你申请 H-1B Visa工作签证;第三,求神拜佛自己能在工作的两年内抽到H-1B工作签证。

每年的4月,美国移民局会提供6万5千个H-1B Visa (工作签证)于本科毕业生,另外2万个工作签证给予硕士生以上的毕业生。而区区8万5千个名额,却收到大约24万份申请表格;僧多粥少,大家可以算算成功率。

工作两年后如果还抽不到 H-1B,就算是老板想挽留你他也无能为力,你还是要收拾包袱回家。


(STEM)理工科毕业生比较容易找到工作是事实,硕士以上的毕业生拿到 H-1B的机会也比本科生多一倍,因为不被抽中的硕士生申请表格将放进本科生的组再抽一次。

人生,有时还真的需要一点运气。。。


The Greetings: A north plain Indian Elder in the gesture of the universal greeting, representing different cultures coming together in the hope of mutual understanding!
印第安人酋长塑像:世界欢迎你!
报考名牌大学的准备工作!

名牌大学严格挑选学生,录取率介于5-15%,难度之高可想而知。


现世代,成绩好的孩子一箩筐,因此,成绩绝对不会是唯一的录取标准。


除了成绩标清,还要多多参与自己真正有兴趣的课外活动:运动学术艺术比赛研究样样精通;为社会服务(Community Service),课余时工作磨练心志(Job)等等,都能提高被录取的机会。

当然,一篇写得好的个人自述 (Personal Statement) 举足轻重,要能让大学当局看到你的强大,也让大学看看你的理想是否符合有关大学的核心精神等等,你能不能脱颖而出就看这些。 

以上种种,证明大学录取的学生,除了优秀,全面,还要有领导才华,具备服务社会的精神;天赋与后天努力兼具,缺一不可。
建议未来计划考取顶尖大学的孩子,一切准备由高中的第一天开始。

成功的道路没有捷径,只能踏实的走。我相信只要心态对了,绝对可以走得久,看得远,,飞得高,创造美好世界。。。

孩子,你准备好了吗?

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